I was listening to a sports radio show, and they were talking about Jay-Z and Drake. They asked a very interesting question about when it should be time for them to stop singing and rapping about being poor. One guy said they can talk about it all they want because some people are born on first base and others on third. I thought about it, and it’s so true. None of us are born on home plate. Some people out there learned from the school of hard knocks and grew up in the streets or the hood. Others grew up in suburban, middle-class families, and their parents never got divorced.
None of us get to choose when and where we’re born; that’s just the way it is. A lot of people blame their circumstances and failures on how they were raised, but I think that’s just an excuse. I know a lot of successful people that are in business today who were born on first base and are doing really well. My point is to stop making excuses for your lack of success and let it fire you up. You should also be excited and learn from others who are doing well.
Joe: Top of the morning, Joe McCall here. REI in your car. It's very early and I'm driving to work out right now at the hospital rehab. And I just wanted to talk about something real quick because I just heard this radio and they were they were talking about it's a sports radio show and they were talking about Jay-Z and Drake. And, you know, they're asking a very interesting question because these guys sing and rap about growing up poor and having nothing. Right. And a lot of people do that. But I don't know these guys. And but, you know, they this is what they were saying. I'm just telling you what they were saying, that when does it come to a point where, you know, you've already spent more of your life being super rich, ultra millionaire, lots of money than you were ever poor? So when do you when can you stop talking about being having nothing? Growing up poor and, you know, because like, you spent way more of your life rich than you did poor, does that make sense, what I'm saying? So I'm not I'm not going to make a judgment call on that. But then one guy was saying, well, you know, they can talk about growing up poor as long as they want, because some people, you know, were born on third base and some people were born on second base and some people were born on first base. Right. And let's just let's just say you're usually one of those three groups, right? So don't say, well, I wasn't I was born at home plate. No, like we were all born on first base, second base or third base. And I was thinking about that because it's true, right? Like some people out there were born in that from the school of hard knocks. Right? They grew up poor. They grew up in the streets in the hood, and other people grew up in middle class families, suburban areas. You know, some people grew up with no parents, no mom and or no or no dad. Some people grew up with parents that were married their whole life. So we all grew up in different places. And we didn't get the choice, did we? Like you didn't get to choose where you were born. The last I knew, you didn't get to decide whether you were born in Mongolia, in a in a dirt hut or in one of those in Mongolia. They're there round houses. Sorry. You know, those things are you didn't get to decide whether, you know, you were born in 1970 or 1990. You didn't get to decide whether you were born poor or rich, low upper class or middle class or lower class. That's just the way it is, right?
Joe: So people who grew up rich with everything handed to them, okay, yeah, some of you might be really jealous and mad and upset about that, but so what? Like you can't, that person who did that, it's not their fault, right? So I did a lot of thinking about this because some people, a lot of people blame their circumstances and where they were raised and how they were raised for their failures or successes in life. Right. And I don't know, I was just thinking about this, like whether you were born on third base or first base, you have no excuses. You could say, well, you know, I was born on first base and I didn't have the same things that the person had on third base. Well, nobody's arguing that that's true, but I know a lot more people that were successful that are successful today. This is so true. I hope you guys are listening to this. I know. And I know. I know. I know everybody, right? But I know a lot of successful people that are in business and doing really well. I know way more people that are successful today who were born on first base than were born on third base. Do you believe that? I totally 100% believe that. I mean, my own personal experience. I grew up poor. I grew up in a trailer. I was white trailer trash, I guess you could say affectionately. I don't mean to say that negatively, but I grew up really poor. I didn't know it. My parents got divorced when I was 11 or 12 or something, and my dad was a janitor and was, you know, cleaning toilets at McDonald's eventually started his own business through it to be a very successful business. But I would you know, I grew up helping clean toilets and kitchen floors. When I was a kid. I would go out my dad when I was growing up, we did sweet potatoes every day without much food. I mean, it was I didn't know what, but like, my parents loved me. They were awesome. They did divorce. Things were, times were hard. But I'm kind of I think I've had pretty good success. I'm more worried about the people that grew up on third base, to be honest. And maybe my kids have grown up on third base. I don't know. But you know, we've been very strict with them. We've been very we've given them a lot of tough love. We don't give them everything and anything they wanted. We probably do give them more than kids who grew up on first base get. But I tell you what, right now they're both my boys are going to college and they're broke as a joke right now. Right? Like, if they want any spending money, they got to go work and get a job. And, you know, they're paying for their own car. They're paying for their gasoline. They're paying for their own insurance. We're helping them pay for college because we don't want them to go getting a bunch of student loan debt.
Joe: But anyway, here's my point. Number one, stop making excuses for yourself and blaming what base you were born on for your lack of success. You should let that fire you up. And number two is you should be encouraged by people that you see that are successful. You know, people are, you know trashing Drake or Jay-Z. And I don't know these guys, but, you know, people are trashing them because like they are, quote unquote, lost touch. These guys are millionaires, you know, and they're talking about how life is hard, you know, and they don't know what it's like, really. But you should here's the thing. You should be excited and congratulate other people's success. When you see people that are doing well, you should be happy for them. What a concept, right? This is a if you're not if you look at them with jealousy and disrespect and you know what I'm saying? You're going to suffer the consequences. You're going to be the one that becomes miserable because it's so much easier to tear people down than it is to lift people up. And so one of the things I really, really want you to do, if you're listening to this and you're paying attention, I hope you are, because this is a very, very important life lesson that applies to real estate. You should celebrate other people's success and learn from them. Don't look down on them and trash talk them. If you see somebody else that's doing deals as having success, be excited for them. Learn something from them. You know, I was on Facebook this morning or Instagram, whatever, and I was flicking through things and I see this young kid in his mid-twenties talking about how to make $1,000,000 wholesaling deals and he's, you know, doing some ad to apply for some coaching program. And my first reaction was this is it. You know, this guy barely came out of puberty and here he is selling some kind of $20,000 coaching package, teaching people how to do $100,000 a month in wholesaling. This guy's been in business for maybe four years and he's already coaching people like if that. And my first reaction was looking down on him like, who is this punk. But, you know, then I thought, you know what? He's been doing deals. Good for him. Maybe there's something that I can learn from him. In fact, there probably is. So there's a lot of things I can look, so I don't want to be that grumpy old guy that looks down on other people that are having success. You know what it is? It's jealousy. And I thought that to myself that this is jealousy. Like, I don't want to do that. I don't want to be like that guy. I want to look at the younger kids coming up and think, man, what can I learn from these guys? What are they doing that I can do to be successful like them? Also, to grow my business, to do more, to be better. And so let's just change our attitude and perspectives. That's all I got. I'm here. Got to go in. I love you guys, I have a good one. Bye.